We are all the product of our environment. Every experience we have builds the person that we become. It influences how we treat others, how we see ourselves, how we think and how we view our place in the world. As a result, there are things that we have within us that we do not value because our perspective is not where it should be.
I recently had a conversation with an old friend who mentioned in passing that his childhood and upbringing left him with a perspective about what it takes to be successful in business that has served him for his entire business life as an entrepreneur. He also mentioned that what he was taught as child gave him a foundation of self confidence that some people described as arrogance but he saw as a self confidence that he could succeed at whatever he chose to do with his life.
He was fortunate. There are many others who had experiences that did not build them up and so they have to make that transition to positive thinking later in their lives. That made me wonder how many other people are fully aware of the impact of their upbringing on their lives as grown ups.
I started to think about it for myself. I know that I have always been someone who likes to be involved in getting things done. I remember being one of the kids who were organizing the talent show at my primary school. I remember being the one who came up with the ideas for concerts and shows and then organizing them at secondary school and at university. Yes, I admit it. I love planning and organizing events. My experiences have always been that this is something that I am good at doing. Fortunately that has also been something that I have done for years as part of my work. However, I only recently started thinking about this as a skill or competence that I have when I was faced with someone else organizing an event and realised that there are people out there who do not know how to do this.
So, that leads me to wonder.
As you prepare yourself for the next twelve months of moving closer to your dreams, have you taken the time to take stock of where you are now? Have you taken an honest look at what you have to offer the world and what you are really capable of accomplishing? I believe that I have to ask this question because most of us are not very good at seeing ourselves clearly. We often underestimate our capabilities and undervalue who and what we are. Especially the things that come to us easily.
You may have things that you are good at doing which you take for granted. If is something that you have never had to work at and yet you succeed at doing regardless of the challenges that you sometimes face while doing it, then it is something you may think has no real significance one way or the other. However, if it is something that has value to someone else because it is a need they have and a skill that they lack, then you cannot dismiss it or minimize its important in your toolbox.
So take the time to do a self inventory. Spend some time looking over your history. Think about your life to date. Look for some consistent success patterns. Ask yourself what is a common theme that runs through them all? Try to consider whether there is one thing that you enjoy doing, something that you are good at and which brings you a great sense of satisfaction when you have done it and everything meets or exceeds your expectations. That may be the secret to the rest of your success journey.
Marjorie Wharton is a trainer, facilitator and coach who works with individuals and organizations to help them improve their performance. She is based at the Sagicor Cave Hill School of Business in Barbados. Follow her on Twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn. For more of her writing visit https://marjoriewharton.live