The hardest part for many people who are trying to achieve anything is the beginning. The part where you get started. For many of us, before we can get going with anything, we want to be sure that we have all the information. We want to be sure that we have considered all the possible scenarios. We think that if we take action without knowing everything or at least considering every possibility, we are likely to find ourselves in dangerous situations.
However, what happens when we take this approach? Many of us wind up feeling overwhelmed, stressed and fearful. We are worried that the issue or situation is too big for us to handle. We worry that the number of answers we do not have means that we will look vulnerable and incompetent. We worry that if we take a wrong step and fail in some way, then we will never be able to recover.
However, here’s the truth. Everyone gets upset at some point in time. We all get that feeling of potentially being overwhelmed at some point in our journey. We all worry when we don’t know all the answers. We all feel challenged when we have to start something that means a lot to us and we don’t know all the answers. However, there are techniques that many people have learned to use over the years to help them cope with the potential negative feelings that might arise.
When I am faced with a new venture or challenge, my natural instinct is to start trying to figure all the different angles. To stop myself though, I have learnt to find one small thing that I can do to get started. I usually try to establish one thing that I can accomplish and focus only on that. Over the years I have also had to accept that it is okay not to know all the answers. It also requires me to have faith that eventually, if I keep going, I will get more information, learn new capabilities and be in a better position to make better decisions.
So the one thing that I recommend to you, if you are going to be trying to make any changes in your life this year, start small. Don’t try to overhaul your entire eating plan, throw out all your meat products, cookies and sweets and decide that you are never touching another one of them ever again.
Instead, remove one item from your shopping list and stop keeping it in your home. Replace it on the list with something that you want to eat more. Bring it into your home and have it available where you can see it often and find it readily easy to reach out and grab. When that change takes hold you will find it less daunting to make additional small changes. If you keep going in this way, eventually you will find that you have achieved the complete overhaul that you wanted but with less stress in your life and with less resistance to the change on your part.
It’s a success secret, that isn’t really a secret. Small changes can add up to big results.
Marjorie Wharton is a trainer, facilitator and coach who works with individuals and organizations to help them improve their performance. She is based at the Sagicor Cave Hill School of Business in Barbados. Follow her on Twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn. For more of her writing visit https://marjoriewharton.live