Emotional Intelligence and You

Self awareness is an important part of self management.  Knowing who we are and what matters to us is key.  Also vital is the need to understand how we respond emotionally to various situations and  to ensure that we have a knowledge of what it will take to behave in the way that is most effective for us.

Emotional intelligence, more often referred to by the terms EI or EQI, provides us with an awareness and tools that can help us be better at doing this. Having good emotional intelligence and practicing good emotional management helps us to be better at building interpersonal relationships. In most areas of our life, having good relationships with those around us, is key to our success.

The five areas that we should focus on developing are as follows:

Self Perception

How do we see ourselves? How confident are we in our own abilities and how committed are we to ongoing growth and development?

Self Expression

How good are you at expressing your emotions to others? DO you let people know how you feel in the most effective way or do you hide your feelings and then erupt when they overwhelm you? How assertive are you and how much independence do you need to have in you life to feel satisfied?


How effective are you at connecting with people? How easy do you find it to show that you care? How interested are you in the well being of the larger groups around you like the community, your school or your organization? Are you good at understanding how other people feel?

Decision Making

How effective are you at solving problems even when your emotions are involved? Do find yourself being overwhelmed? How easy is it for you to stay grounded when faced with emotional situations? Are you the kind of person who takes a while to act on your emotional impulses or do you proceed headlong into action when facing a challenge?

Stress Management

How flexible are you in responding to challenging situations? Are you able to bounce back quickly or does it take you some time to adapt before you can move forward? How well are you handling stress? How hopeful or optimistic are you you?

Having an awareness of these five areas will help us to be better at understanding ourselves and our interactions with others.


Marjorie Wharton is a trainer, facilitator and coach who works with individuals and organizations to help them improve their performance.  She is based at the Sagicor Cave Hill School of Business in Barbados. Follow her on twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn.  For more of her writing visit https://marjoriewharton.live







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