It’s Friday. What is going to be your mindset for the day? Are you going to be walking into the day with an attitude of gratitude or one of complaint and negativity?
Today is the end of the work week. You just had the opportunity to experience five days of employment, or school or family life or whatever else you engaged in to occupy the larger part of your daylight hours. Did you see it as an opportunity or were you more consumed with the negatives; the traffic problems or the terrible people you met or the problems when things didn’t happen as they should?
For all of us, it’s easy to get distracted and forget that we should always be grateful every day that we get another opportunity to be our best selves. It can be tough to smile through pain or disappointment. It can be difficult to remember that the hard times don’t come to stay but to help us prepare to be better in the good times. So we have to keep on telling ourselves:
- It gets better.
Having hope for a better tomorrow helps us to keep going.
- The tough times didn’t come to stay.
Knowing that the situation is temporary will help us to view it differently than if we believe that we have no way out. Most people can endure things for a season with some attitude of hope and kindness to themselves and others.
- We are better than this.
When we believe that we are better than the situation or circumstance then we can take the mindset that we will not let ourselves be defeated by it. No matter how hard it seems right now, we will not surrender. We will keep pushing through because we have what it take.
- This too shall pass.
Try to remember another time in your life when you had to overcome difficulty or challenges. What happened then can provide some comfort for you when you remember that you are the kind of person who has survived challenges before and come out the other side. Knowing that can help you to picture how you can do it again.
- It could be worse.
No matter how bad it is for us, it could always have been worse. So long as we are alive we have a chance to recover and move on. If we have a roof over our heads, a job or school to go to and food to eat, we are better off than a large portion of the world’s population. If we could take the perspective and remember to be grateful for the fact that the situation was not any worse than it was, it would allow us to get back to a more positive and hopeful outlook.
We should also recognize that what we consider to be a struggle, only feels that way because we do not know how to navigate it or how to re-frame the situation in our minds. So perhaps there are some skills that we need to learn or some new habits that we need to develop. So a really big thing we should always ponder is:
- What am I supposed to learn from this experience?
- Why does this keep happening? (if it does)
- What can I do differently the next time I see this situation coming?
It’s not easy but it is necessary for us to work at keeping our positive perspective in life. It helps us get up in the morning, get our energy up and keep going throughout the day. The idea that what we are doing matters and makes a contribution in some way, means that we have to keep moving forward, with some level of happiness, engagement and enthusiasm.
Marjorie Wharton is a trainer, facilitator and coach who works with individuals and organizations to help them improve their performance. She is based at the Sagicor Cave Hill School of Business in Barbados. Follow her on twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn. For more of her writing visit https://marjoriewharton.live