Mel Robbins is the author of “The 5 Second Rule”. Her theory is that we are often defeated by our hesitancy to do things. That instant when we first have the idea to do something or even when we want to follow through on a commitment we made to ourselves is often immediately followed by our doubting voice or the feeling that we do not want to take the action.
Mel consistently reminds her followers that there are always going to be things that we do not feel like doing. In her opinion, we should not allow ourselves to dwell there. We should take action within 5 seconds. In that time, she recommends that we engage in a countdown system, 5 to 1. At the end of the countdown, we launch ourselves into whatever it is that we were dreading and once we have launched, like a rocket ship, there is no turning back. We are committed to the course.
In one of her most recent statements on the subject she uses herself as an example. She points out that she has been practicing yoga for the last 15 years and she hates it. However, she does it because she recognizes the good things that it does for her body in terms of the way that she feels afterwards and the energy she has. The following are four (4) statements taken from the posts of Mel Robbins and my take on how we can apply them in our lives.
- Do it anyway.
There are many things that we do not feel like doing. We often can come up with several justifications for why our refusal to take action is the best decision. However, that does not mean that it is the best course of action. In fact, there are many times that what we dread doing at the beginning, we then become grateful that we did it in spite of our initial reluctance. So it doesn’t matter if you don’t feel like doing it. If it is something that you should be doing, do it anyway.
- It’s happening for a reason
Bad things happen. Challenges come and we have to fight and struggle. However, if we keep at it, we will grow from the experience and we will become stronger. It’s not easy. Struggle never is. In the end though, you will look back on it and realise the role that it played in your ultimate success. So don’t give up. Hang in there and keep going. The reason will be revealed eventually.
- If you don’t believe it, game over.
You have to at least believe that it is possible to achieve what you dream. That faith gets you excited enough to put in the effort and the hard work that it is going to take to get you to where you are going. Furthermore, there are going to be enough people out there in the world who will doubt your ability to do what you envision for yourself. You don’t want to have another one living inside your head permanently. That will undermine all your efforts more than all the others put together.
- If you wait until you are ready, you’ll be waiting for the rest of your life.
Usually, we have no idea what we need to do to turn a big idea into a reality. That does not mean that we should dismiss the idea. Most successful people could not have predicted the path that they would have taken to their success. They only had the vision and the willingness to take the action necessary. You don’t need to know all the answers to get started. You only need to have a starting point and to believe that the rest will come. Then keep an open mind and an open heart. That way, you will be able to spot the lessons, and the opportunities when they show up.
Marjorie Wharton is a trainer, facilitator and coach who works with individuals and organizations to help them improve their performance. She is based at the Sagicor Cave Hill School of Business in Barbados. For more of her writing visit https://marjoriewharton.live